In the western world we assign value to a dizzying array of different things. We look for value in the cars we drive, the watch we wear, the holidays we go on, the places we visit - and the list goes on and on.
I personally spend weeks agonizing over the type of laptop I want to use to blog or the type of camera I want to make pictures with. The sad part is, while I’m doing it I know it doesn't matter.
In the end, it doesn't matter what type of laptop I have if I never post an article. It doesn't matter if I choose to shoot film or digital if I’m spending my time worrying about my camera or lens, and not going out to help people make a record of their lives.
I’m going to come right out and say it, “Things don’t matter”. There isn't enough time in our lives to spend it trying to work out if we can improve aspects of our lives that really don’t matter.
This brings me to my next point. During my life I have met many people who have told me that weddings don’t matter, I have to strongly disagree. Choosing to get married is one of the most important choices you can make in your life.
It’s not just about discovering the right person, it’s about choosing to spend the rest of your life helping the person you love most in this world develop into the person that they want to be. As a husband helping to show your wife love. As a wife showing your husband that you respect the man he is becoming.
More often than I would like I am distracted from this truth. Getting married was my declaration to everyone that I want to be responsible for improving my wife’s life, it’s not about me now. It’s about us.
Real value comes from the work that we do to build up the people we love. The time we spend trying to help other people. Real value isn’t about things. It’s about the love we show.
That changes everything